by Sheri E Ragland
Sheri: Hello, Robert. I would like to thank you for taking the opportunity to share your personal story of change. I have written a book about men and their insecurities that was launched worldwide in October 2014, and relaunching in September 15, 2015 through a new publisher. The book is called Seven Deep Insecurities Men Don’t Want Women to Know. It is available online now through Buzz About Relationships’ website, WestBow, Amazon and Barnes and Nobles. I have included your memoir as well as thoughts from other men about their insecurities because I think it is important for men to talk about their insecurities to benefit other men, women and couples.
Robert: Thank you for the opportunity to share my story.
Sheri: Why did you choose to talk about your insecurities in your memoir?
Robert: I chose to talk about my insecurities because it has been my freedom of expression from past experiences. My insecurities are shared by other men every day and many of those men don’t understand how to begin the process of change. It is important for me to share how I began the process of personal change and what has worked for me. My freedom from the past began, when I let God take control of my life.
Sheri: What is one of your deepest insecurities?
Robert: Pride has hindered me from having successful relationships with family, friends and ex-girlfriends. To be honest, there is nothing positive about pride because it is self-centered. You often think your thoughts are above the thoughts of others even though the consequences show otherwise. Pride hurts you and those close to you.
Sheri: What did you do to address the insecurity?
Robert: I started to listen to the feedback of family, friends and ex-girlfriends. I knew they all couldn’t be wrong. I really started to reflect and take a serious look at myself. No matter how hard I tried to be a better person in my own strength, it was not enough. I thought more about my mother’s teachings of God and scriptures. I began to study the Bible and pray as part of my process of change. God pursued me with his wonderful love, mercy and grace.
Sheri: Do you still deal with the insecurity?
Robert: Yes, from time to time. I still deal with pride because change is a life-long process. Old habits are hard to break, but not impossible. Through God, I can break those habits. Change takes time. My hope lies is in being victorious in Christ and sharing my story to inspire other men.
Sheri: Do you feel you are a better man today? Why?
Robert: Yes, I do believe I am a better man today because of the power of God and his life changing word. The scriptures have brought me freedom from my past and have caused me to think positively about my future. However, I am still a work in progress. Christ has a wonderful purpose for my life that has begun with my testimony of freedom in Him.
Sheri: What words of encouragement do you have for other men who maybe dealing with insecurities?
Robert: First, listen to the feedback from others. If you are consistently getting the same feedback from those in your life, take a look at yourself. Second, acknowledge that you need to change and do something about it. My plan includes living a God-centered life. Finally, change comes in time with persistence and patience. Don’t give up. God has a purpose for each one of our lives. It is one of victory and success!
Sheri: You have a powerful testimony about God’s grace, mercy and love in your life. It takes courage to share your story and to think past the critical lenses of others to help other men overcome their insecurities. Thank you for sharing your story. Seven Deep Insecurities Men Don’t Want Women to Know is available in soft and hard copies online through Buzz About Relationships’ website, WestBow, Amazon and Barnes and Nobles. E-book will be available by September 30, 2015 online as well.
Robert: Thank you.