by Sheri E Ragland
Couples sometimes find it difficult to forgive, when they can’t see the big picture and the possibilities for their relationship to progress. When an issue or problem in a relationship arises, do you forgive your partner? Or, do your words of discourse, pride, and attitude rule your relationship? In order to forgive, there has to be an apology. It doesn’t matter who apologizes first when there is a problem or misunderstanding as long as there is forgiveness that follows. Forgiveness can be a preventative measure against future damage when individuals have the maturity to successfully manage their relationship together through healthy communications, respect, kindness, encouragement and support. Also, forgiving can be an important part of the healing process when damage has been done in a relationship. Part of the healing process means to move forward and not dwell on the problem anymore. Forgiving is an act of humility and a sign of commitment to your partner. However, it is not a license to condone or practice bad behavior. Forgiveness should encourage anyone to change for the better. More couples need to recognize the power in forgiving and practice it as much as possible.
Do you find it difficult to forgive in your relationship?